If you feel anxiety in relationships and find yourself pushing people away, an important thing you can do is develop insight into this pattern and how it began. A great way to do this would be to go to psychotherapy. Through gaining insight into the pattern, you can also understand what function is this serving? Oftentimes, when people want to push others away, it’s often because of a fear: a fear of being abandoned or being mistreated or being hurt or some other fear of a negative thing happening in that relationship. Often, these fears have arisen from past experiences – but not always. Psychotherapy is a wonderful place to sort out these fears and develop more insight into this pattern so that you can allow yourself to get close to people and let them in, being able to trust them.